12 Natural Ways to Deal with Stress, So You Can Stay in High Vibrations
Stress has everything to do with your overall health!
Stress—or our reaction to it—is as powerful as food is, in achieving a high-vibration life or a low-vibration life.
We don't always get a say in the stressful situations that come along, but our reactions to them are largely up to us.
I'm going to share some major principles that have helped me live a life of happiness, and relative peace even though I'm a single mom, I travel a lot for work, and I have what by any standards would be called a high-stress job.
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These concepts I’m going to share have been hard-won for me.
A few years ago, I had a terrible professional experience. I felt deeply wronged by another company whose actions inflicted tremendous harm on me and my business.
The damage was both emotional and financial. I could have spent many months, or even years, of my life pursuing a conflict that would have vindicated me and made me rich. Or, I could settle and end the dispute with peace, light, and forgiveness.
I chose the latter. And this big choice led me to some clarity about all the smaller, daily choices that help change my mindset, my thought patterns, and my overall happiness.
My 12 Natural Ways to Deal With Stress
I want to share with you 12 strategies I learned to reduce stress and stay in high vibration, even through tough circumstances.
1. Box Breathing
Navy Seals trained to go into highly stressful situations are taught box breathing.
When I wake up in the morning, I do this technique for quite some time, while also meditating.
You breathe in for 4 counts, hold at the top for 4 counts, exhale for 4 counts, and hold at the bottom for 4 counts.
You don’t do this a few times. You do it for 5 or 10 minutes, or even longer.
You eventually get so trained in it, that you may have to remind yourself that you can stop, and can return to normal in-and-out slow breathing.
I notice every single time I do box breathing, that within about five minutes, I feel very calm and the wave of anxiety has passed. (Which otherwise might last hours, for me.)
2. Opt Out of Drama
I am vigilant about not opting in to negativity and drama in my family, my business, the competitive sports teams I play on, or in intimate relationships.
Keeping it from affecting me takes serious consciousness and commitment about what I'm spending my time thinking about and doing.
I try to spend my unstructured time well. That's time out running, in the shower, or driving. I use my unstructured time to think through problems and turn the energy of something from a negative to a positive.
If I have to have a “high-stakes conversation” with one of my children, an employee, or a friend, I try to devote some time to thinking it through first. I come away knowing what I want to say, what I don’t want to say, and how I want the other person to feel at the end of our conversation.
Here's the thing: my days on this planet are numbered. I want to spend them doing something awesome with my life.
Every five minutes I spend being angry is five minutes of happiness that I gave up. When you get clear on that, all your decisions become easier, and you spend a lot less time on meaningless stuff.
I have this saying on my vision board, and I look at it every day: "Make something beautiful of your life."
I can't make something beautiful of my life if I spend my limited life fighting, regretting, not forgiving, or stewing.
3. Stop Worrying
Read Dale Carnegie's How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. It's kind of a bible for me on how to live.
Severely limiting the amount of time I spend worrying was tough; it didn't come easily to me. One thing Carnegie says is, "Remind yourself of the statistical improbability of whatever you're worrying about actually happening."
Here’s another great nugget for you from the book. Every time you’re worried about something, ask yourself: “Will this matter in a year?” The answer is no 99 percent of the time. If that’s so, let it go.
Buy the book, take it around with you, and read a chapter every day.
A year later, do the same thing all over again. I've read it over and over again, and now, I have the whole book pretty much memorized.
4. Attend To The Feeling Of Stress
Don’t fear your negative emotions. Attend to them and learn to identify them quickly.
Ask yourself, "What am I feeling, and why?" You can't solve something if you don't even know what it is. In my 20s, I used to spend hours or even days being angry and tense without really knowing why.
Back then, I'd spend a lot of time verbalizing to people close to me what I was stressed out about instead of doing the internal work of checking in with myself, breaking it down, and then releasing it.
Now I get real, and I get real fast.
When I’m really clear on what's bothering me, I choose to talk myself through it. I fully feel it, and then I consciously break it down.
Mentally go to a safe place for 60 whole seconds in your mind, and when that has become a practice, you have a potent tool to shift your mental energies.
Work is often a stresser -- evaluate your stress, feel it, then let it go. Is there anything underneath it?
My “safe place” is at the top of Provo Canyon, where I bike or I ski on either side of the canyon. In a stressful situation, you can “go there” in your imagination. Imagine what it looks like, what it feels like. Imagine the smells. Put yourself there in every way.
You can also learn how to reframe and release any negative emotion in 90 seconds or less!
This technique works for more than just stress, and you might find out that your stress is a cover for a different emotion entirely, one you can learn to clear quickly with this tool.
5. Ask Yourself This Question
I want to give you a profound question I learned from my friend Matthew.
This is a good one to ask yourself everyday, because checking in with who you are, and how you want to show up today, is far more important than wondering, “What tasks am I going to do today?” (That’s the question most of us default to each morning.)
The question is: "What is the purpose of my life?"
This is what you want most. Really. What is the purpose of your life?
My answer was, I want to be healthy and happy, and I want to help others be healthy and happy. I'm always checking in with what I'm doing or thinking about right now with that goal in mind. Is what I'm doing right now making me or someone else healthier and happier?
6. Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
And like the classic book says: it's all small stuff! Once you get clear on how much of what we get angry about and worry about is small stuff, our whole life changes for the better.
For my podcast, I interviewed Kristine Carlson, who helped her husband Richard write Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff--And It’s All Small Stuff!
She spoke about how she used the “small stuff” principles to get through Richard’s sudden death in his 40s, at the height of his career as an international best-selling author.
She shared with me how life becomes less scary when you find perspective and get out of your own way. One of my favorite things she said was,
"The beauty of not sweating the small stuff is it frees up all of your focus to your creativity. When you’re not focused on things that don’t matter, you have all the energy you need to focus really on what does."
Listen to the whole interview here.
7. Live in Gratitude
The flip side of not sweating the small stuff is to find joy in the small stuff, every day.
Gratitude works wonders. It’s one of the highest-vibration emotions. When you settle into a reverie of considering all the great people and blessings in your life, your ECG frequencies actually increase by 10 Hz! And the frequencies are strong, steady, and smooth.
Which is how we all like to feel, right?
Almost every day, little things happen that are really cool. Noticing them, and taking a moment to feel grateful for them, can uplevel your quality of life.
When I'm out running or biking, I love to ponder the question, "What do I love about my life?"
My friend Megan Wooden, who found out she had a deadly form of cancer when she had four small children, told me that she writes at the top of her journal page every day, "And the good news is," and she fills it in.
I learned long ago that gratitude is a magic elixir, an antidote to stress.
We all love adults who retain a sense of childlike wonder. I think it’s fun to create gratitude, to remember to be amazed! Blown away! Giddy! Grateful!
Choosing into the amazing vibration of gratitude opens you to recognizing the synchronicities and miracles in your life. They may seem small and common until you exercise mindfulness. Know that gratitude is a choice, not a feeling.
8. Live in Einstein Time
Gay Hendricks wrote a book called The Big Leap that forever changed my life and my relationship with minutes, hours, and days.
His concept of “Einsteinian time” comes from the example Einstein used to explain relativity: an hour with your beloved feels like a minute; a second on a hot stove feels like an hour.
We often speak of time as if we are at the mercy of its limiting control. “I don’t have time,” or “Time got away from me.”
But we all have the same amount of time, and we choose what actions to take in the time we have.
We can either create time with abundance thinking, or create time pressure by scarcity thinking. Don’t crawl into bed and whine; don't kill hours just griping. Roll up your sleeves! Life is amazing when we use our waking hours to be productive, to problem solve, to tend to others' needs.
Notice when you find yourself speaking like a victim of time. For example, “I’d like to stop and chat, but I don’t have time.” Instead, speak as the source and master of time. For example, you could say, “I’ll make time for that.”
Now I know what it is to create time. I know that time doesn't own me. I'm not always breathless and rushed and behind anymore. Time is just a man-made construct; human beings have put markers on it in a variety of ways.
I know that I will make time for the things that matter most.
9. Read and Journal
I love to read. I feel passionate about gaining new knowledge everyday, especially in the area of self-development. Make sure not all of your reading is escape reading. After a year or two of reading the best books that you carefully curate to make you better, you'll find yourself more grounded, more peaceful, with far more tools to calm and de-stress.
It's also a great way to build your character, through studying, pondering, and talking to others around you about the stuff that you're learning. Journal what you learn so that it becomes part of your way of being.
10. Forgive and Let Go
Practice the art of letting go and forgiving someone on a regular basis.
Make letting go a guiding principle of who you are.
This is what I learned from my divorce: how many things I can let go of, and fast. So many things in my life changed at that time so quickly; I had to decide whether to cling to them, screaming and kicking, or to accept and be at peace.
Make a goal of forgiving people more quickly and easily. More peace and forgiveness of others = less toxicity = better health = purer love for everyone around me = more joy.
11. Reach Out
A lot of times the answer to what seems a devastating problem is a lot simpler and quicker than you think.
Even as unique as you are, I guarantee there are others who have found their way through the same problems you’re facing now.
Ask yourself, "Who can help me with this?" Reach out. Call on the relationships you’ve built. Sometimes the only way through a problem is, well, through it, and even if there is not a ready solution, the people who love you will strengthen and lift you on the journey through. Putting words on what’s eating you, with someone you trust, is a great first step.
12. Believe In Karma
Ecclesiastes 11:1 says, "Cast your bread upon the waters, and after many days, it will come back to you." I’ve always seen that as the law of karma in scripture.
If you're doing good works, then good is going to flow back to you. Sooner or later. Maybe indirectly. The Hindus use the concept of “karma” exclusively with a negative meaning (“bad karma”), but we Westerners believe in good karma, too. Don’t you?
Believe in it, and put some good stuff out there. It's going to flow back, and it's going to be all over you before you know it.
Did you notice that I didn’t mention nutrition, exercise, or sleep to combat stress? Of course, these elements are important; good nutrition strengthens you against the health effects of stress, exercise gives you great endorphins to counteract negativity, and sleep recharges you.
But I wanted to give you some other strategies I’ve learned that have pulled me through some of the worst times in my life.
What are your healthy ways to deal with stress? I’d love to hear one of yours.
Read next: How To Fight Depression and Anxiety: 12 Nutrition Strategies
Robyn Openshaw, MSW, is the bestselling author of The Green Smoothies Diet, 12 Steps to Whole Foods, and 2017’s #1 Amazon Bestseller and USA Today Bestseller, Vibe. Learn more about how to make the journey painless, from the nutrient-scarce Standard American Diet, to a whole-foods diet, in her free video masterclass 12 Steps to Whole Foods.
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Posted in: Emotional Health, Health Concerns, High-Vibe Living, Lifestyle, Mind/Body Connection, Natural Remedies, Stress Management
Over the past year and a half our family has made some huge transitions. It all started because of the Greem Smoothie girl and we are very appreciative. I started feeling so good after changing our diet that I took a leap of faith and went off of Wellbutrin which I had been on for 5-6 years. In my family, 6 out of 7 sibblings are on some form of medication for depression. I had suffered from it my entire life. It is sooooooooooooo amazing to be free of the medication and feel good naturally. I attribute most of the anxiety and depression to my poor eating habits. Lots of sugar, white flour, etc. We now drink green smoothies every day, stopped dairy and meat and eat so much healthier.
As far as stress relievers go, eating better has decreased the anixiety but adding walking, swimming and biking have been huge helps. I wish I had know about the green smoothie lifestyle 25 or 30 years ago. Thanks Robyn!!!!!
I will definitely start looking in to EFT and some of the other ideas posted here. They sound amazing.
Thanks Everyone!!
Hi Robyn,
I’m a friend of Rex and Brent’s. Great blog post.
Stress is one of the biggest health concerns going right now. People don’t realize that it is one of the major contributing factors to obesity, strokes, heart disease, respiratory disease, memory loss. Also, if you get stuck in stress too long, the stress chemical cortisol destroys your brain cells and adrenaline forces you to focus your attention on the stressor, which only causes more stress. If you get stuck in stress, the blood leaves the part of your brain you need to imagine a brighter future, plan how to create a brighter future, and see yourself as capable of achieving your brighter future. You even get locked out of the part of your brain that allows you to feel joy.
I’ve tried EFT, EMDR, Yoga, meditation, TAT and more. These all provided some benefit, but they didn’t seem to provide the lasting type of change I was looking to find.
After a 30 year personal quest to eliminate the stress of past traumas and difficult life challenges I found something that really worked, Neuroscience. Specifically, Neuroplasticity, the brain science that understands how to make lasting changes to your brain.
After years of research and testing, I found that if you make very specific changes to the neuropatterns (not brain wave patterns) stored in your brain that your emotions, your thoughts and your life change for the better.
Hope this doesn’t seem to self serving, since I pioneered this technique, but my mission is to give people the tools to free themselves from the debilitating neuropatterns that keep them in stress and keep them from manifesting their dreams.
Sincerely,
Don
Meditation, exercise/yoga, prayer, super nutritious foods, talks with friends, good reads like Green Smoothie Girl support (thank you, all!) loving on my doggies! Really want to try the healthy hot cocoa…..yummy!
to Kim on march 11: Just today a friend wouldn’t try my green smoothie because he didn’t know what was in it. so: isolate each item in your green drink and take only one item each day to determine which food you are having an allergy /rejection to. I do not use a green powder and i vary the ingredients by whatever produce is in the fridge. Ideas: I always start with soaking whatever 3 seeds I’m going to use like chia, sesame, flax, or hemp seed, maybe 2 tb each. After 15 min the seeds become gelatinous and I add it at the end of ingredients. My fav green is kale (nutrition dense) but any green will do, even lettuce. An apple, always a banana (I freeze to keep them handy), orange, and to sweeten the kale I like a frozen coconut juice from Thailand called “Queens Diamond Brand”, but any coconut will do, fresh or canned.
I too don’t feel satisfied with only liquid, so I eat raw almonds and/or raw cashews with it. Good luck, sis, keep experimenting. ps also consider using a pure water, not tap water.
To counteract stress I form daily habits of journaling in my gratitude journal right when I wake up and right before bed. After journaling I do a Sahaja Yoga Meditation. This helps me clear my mind and keep my thoughts focused on the positive: what is good and what is going well in my life. About 4 times a week I go for a walk/ jog for an hour on a wooded trail near our house. while jogging I stop and do yoga stretches about half way through. I also use the reflexology points on the bottom of my feet while jogging.
I quit eating sugary desserts and candy last November 09 and I seemed to have a lot less inflammation as a result.
Since I started drinking the Green Smoothies exactly 1 month ago I have no more inflammation in my stomach. I have a list of other positive benefits that I’ve journaled in my gratitude journal; i.e. no more constipation, no abdominal pain, I’m thinking more clearly now, I’m getting along better with people, my muscle tone is improving, I have high energy. That definitely relieved a lot of stress for me. Thank you Robyn !
I totally believe in opting out the drama! I don’t want to spend my life living as the victim when instead I can use that energy to create something wonderful and beautiful with my life! I love that!
I believe stress is a part of life and tells me what I need to deal with, solve, work on, and is primary guidance in maneuvering my life towards purpose and meeting the challenges that (mountains) I wish to climb and conquer. I accept it and decide if it is worth attending to and how. Overall I believe it is how I “deal” with it that gives it a destructive nature or a healthy nature in my overall life. Drama can be destructive or a challenge depending on if it is positive and productive or petty and negative. I avoid negative, fear-based, and destructive drama and focus on things that make my life and others lives positive and exciting, purposeful and bright. I don’t always succeed in this world that is full of fear-based, negative focused pitfalls from media, politics, corporate to entertainment.
Travel! When I am on vacation, I may have to “worry” about where do eat dinner, or which beach to go to, or dang, i left my toothpaste at home! But that is ALL I am worried about. My focus in on the here and now, and being in a new place fills me with wonder and excitement. My problems from home constantly bombard me when I am at home. When I am in a new place, my problems don’t seem to follow me.
It’s the eve before spending 3 days at Boston Children’s Hospital for testing on my 8 year old. We just had herbal tea together, snuggled in our jammies while reading books together. We shared our fears, then took deep “bloom breaths” before singing our goodnight song! Now we’re ready for what tomorrow brings
Thanks for sharing this. Much of the advice is what my wise mother often told us, her six children through the years. When she broke her hip she said, “I’ve got to keep moving or I’ll not be able to.” She looked for positive in each day.
I loved this one! I made a note of the books to read.
So glad you enjoyed it Marilyn!
Boy, did I NEED this article this morning, Robyn! By all counts, I learned the worry thing from my wonderful mom and dear grandmother. They were both major worriers. Although they did everything they could to always put on the happy face when they were around us kids, deep down (especially my mom) struggled emotionally while working hard to support the world of my traumatized dad. To this day, my sister and I joke about how we learned the worry bug from the best. But, in reality, it’s anything but funny; it’s limiting, overwhelming to me, my husband and our children. We’re currently visiting our daughter in Michigan whose big, beautiful border collie was recently diagnosed with a sarcoma cancer. The decision to have surgery, or let him go at 14 years old, has been a source of anxiety between my daughter and I. She wants to “save” him with surgery, which the vet said may only extend his life for a year. My prayer is that she allow him go peacefully, now, since surgery and recovery can be hard on old dogs (and old humans for that matter), BEFORE the cancer creates pain and suffering. All I do is worry about her decision. I can’t sleep, I cry on and off almost every time I look into his eyes knowing I will be around to witness this (my husband and I decided years ago NOT to have another dog because neither of us wanted to go through the emotions of loosing one again).
After reading this article I regained some perspective (things I already know at 71 years old, but can’t seem to manage these days). I even purchased both books you referred to as a way to keep me focused on improving my mental and emotion health and supporting our daughter in whatever decision she makes. Aside from that, I’ve been living through seven years of on and off sadness, regret and anger since my husband decided we weren’t going back to Michigan after taking a couple of years off to be “snowbirds” in Florida. It’s a loooong story, but I’ve yet been able to accept it and have been sad and resentful ever since. All of this long-term stress has only kept me in that cycle. I NEED to be able to work through the next steps of finding our way home to our family and friends… the isolation in Florida has kept me very, very stuck. Thank you for this article. It’s actually been one of the better, more applicable, ones I’ve read so far. With gratitude AND an anticipated recovery (insert heart).
So glad you found Robyn's tips helpful, Pam!