Nikki at GSG has been going through 7.5 years of my blog, deleting old stuff and cleaning it up. She’ll text me something I said years ago that strikes her as funny, considering where I “live” now. She sends commentary about how she’s getting to know a previous version of me.
Like Madonna, we reinvent ourselves every so often. We have to. You’ve heard the saying, “Change or die!” Change has defined my life, probably yours too? Just when I get to a “new normal,” it seems things change again—often radically. In my family, in my professional life, in my private world of emotions and thoughts.
When I put the GSG site up, I ran a huge, thriving garden and three composting boxes and 12 fruit trees, feeding my family of 6. I’m now struggling a bit to adjust to having just one child left at home. There’s almost nobody around to eat whatever I’d plant, and I’m on the road a lot. When I’m home, I find myself living on quarts of green smoothies and almond bars.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned since my divorce 6.5 years ago, it’s to be flexible. To let go. To adapt without resistance.
I believe, and say often, “Flexible people are happy people.” This week I put my ambitious humanitarian daughter Emma on a plane for yet another humanitarian adventure. This time, for several months in Thailand she is paying for, entirely, herself. Goodbye again. Moving forward with grace and enthusiasm into new chapters in life has been key in maintaining my joie de vivre.
When I taught my son to ski, I told him, “If you lean backwards, you’ll fall, and more importantly, you’ll feel scared, which won’t help you get better. If you push yourself to lean forward, into the downhill, you’ll have far more control, especially making turns, and you’re going to enjoy skiing more.” Sometimes I kick and scream for a minute, until I remember my core value of “leaning into” change.
I believe we are happiest when we are keenly self-aware, but we also consciously let go of negative feelings, of terrible experiences that haunt us, of self-criticism and criticism of others. My observation, as I near 5 decades on the planet, is that happy relationships are ones where both people give each other wide latitude to “just be.” Be who we are—flaws and quirks, all of it. Not just “live and let live,” but enjoying the differences and quirks of others, and be forgiving of the small ways they may fail us.
I’m going to talk about far more than nutrition in my upcoming lecture tour titled,
Secrets for Achieving Radical Health At Any Age
(Right now we’re ticketing in Utah, California, and Texas, so grab your VIP or free tickets.) As always, I want to share only messages that I believe will bless your life.
I want to talk about what I’ve learned that has changed my life and my health for the better, in all areas. Not just physically.
Just when you think you have things figured out, Life reminds you how much more you have to learn. I had a year like that, last year, in 2014. The last 8 months of it were, very frankly, the worst experience of my life. Worse than my divorce.
I thought I had a grip on forgiving, letting go, and not letting negatives have my energy. It’s become a pretty strong talent of mine. But a few times in life, it’s just bigger than you can handle. In that moment, anyway. You process and release it in bits, in stages.
On my own, though, my process is to learn how to regain trust and faith, how to heal after difficult experiences, and how to thrive and be happy again.
Thanks for being patient with me. I’M BACK. So glad to feel positive about the future and back out in love and light. Now I have more life experiences and “key learnings” to draw on. I feel my character deepened and I have more to offer. I’m making lots of YouTube videos about things I think will be helpful and relevant for you, on your nutrition journey and your life path.
My next blog will be about how, in the worst crisis of my life so far, I stayed upright, and never even got sick—amazingly, maintaining great physical health through it all.
(Don’t you love “tender mercies?” Compensatory blessings? Noticing them and feeling gratitude is part of how I turn the corner on major adversity. My friend Megan W., who is only 40 but has been through both divorce and stage 4 cancer, says she journals starting with this every day: “And the good news is…..”) But I want to share with you more about how I made sure that was the case, that my physical health was strong through a moral, emotional, and mental crisis.
Stay tuned for my next blog, on that. And hope to see my Utah, California, and Texas friends on my new lecture tour starting in September!