My best friend, Kristin, and I had a year, going through divorce and various single-working-mom struggles, where we decided to look at the world differently. Instead of griping about how this-or-that didn’t go our way, we’d find the ways that any series of events was actually PERFECT, just the way it was. Even though we wouldn’t have planned it that way. We’d look at a situation, in the rear-view mirror, and make this pronouncement:
We said it a lot. And it was shocking how often it was true! The thing we were trying to avoid? When it happened, it turned out to be so instructive that it literally felt necessary to our growth–or our kids’, or a relationship’s.
I’ve often said to the people closest to me that divorce, and also raising teenaged and adult children, is an exercise in Letting Go.
I can’t believe how many things I used to cling to, 10 years ago, that I’ve let go of. It’s freeing, and it’s abundant, and it’s made me a more tolerant, patient, fun person. I like this Me better than the more-rigid Me of 10 years ago. I don’t even want to think about the girl I was 20 years ago–except as a necessary developmental phase. (You can’t get Through It except…through it.)
I’m sure many of you in mid-life, moving into new phases, can relate.
I still have standards, and routines, and beliefs. But fewer of them. And the ones I have are more flexible, less dogmatic. And I talk about them and impose them on others much less. The more I let go, the happier I am.
I’m grateful for learning and growth. I’m grateful for letting go, and for learning to love better. I’m beyond grateful for those who have loved me, in all my weaknesses.
The day I was writing this blog, I got the sweetest hand-written letter from a GSG reader named Shellie V. She said she’s doing 30 days of gratitude notes in November and I made the cut. She told me all the ways that GSG has changed her life and expressed her thanks. Not only did she make my day, but her heart rate went down.
There’s not one bad thing about feeling and expressing gratitude. Thank you for reading my words on this blog, the past 6 years. I love you and think of you, and the stories you’ve shared with me, every day. GSG readers are an integral part of my life that I adore. Thank you for sharing the journey with me.
Life is complicated and hard sometimes, but so beautiful. Although I’m in Switzerland with the GSG retreat / detox at Paracelsus through the American holiday, I’m thinking of home, and of you, and hoping you and your loved ones have a wonderful Thanksgiving weekend.