“After I eat chocolate cake, I want to die”

I got this email from my friend Matthew:

He had just read this quote: “When I eat chocolate cake, 20 minutes later I’m under my desk wanting to die, When I eat broccoli, in 20 minutes I feel good. But given the choice I always eat the cake.”

Matthew asks: “Why do people choose the chocolate cake?

“Have I ever talked to you about how Tony Robbins talked about training himself to push his plate away when he was full? He grew up in a home with the ‘doctrine of the clean plate’ (or something like that) and had to retrain himself. The psychology of how to train yourself about what is okay and what is not okay is fascinating to me. (I have taught my kids to waste food anytime they want for example, and that was SO WRONG in the tribe I grew up in.)

“I wonder if you wrote some blogs about how to train yourself and condition yourself to have feelings and opinions about healthy eating that are more useful. How about Affirmations for Health by YOU?”

I told Matthew that I was raised with the same rule: you must finish everything on your plate. I’m developing a meditation to go to the very root of why we sabotage ourselves nutritionally, and correct those subconscious beliefs. (I wrote about this in a blog series months ago called, “I love my body. It serves me well!”)

What are your beliefs about yourself and food, that cause you to make poor choices over and over? What are the words you say in your head? Could you write them on a 3×5 card and think about whether they are useful or harmful?

What if you could write NEW beliefs and statements that you could replace those with, which are more useful? It would work only if you repeated those beliefs over and over.

Do you “make” your kids finish their dinner? At my house, you don’t have to finish anything—except your green smoothie, fruits/vegs, or salad. You can skip the rest of the dinner.

Parents, or anyone with opinions, what do you think? I know it’s no longer popular at all to ‘make’ kids do ANYTHING. But I ‘make’ myself eat 60-80% raw greens/vegs/fruit before I consider eating anything else—so it isn’t as if I’m requiring anything of my kids I’m not doing myself. I have done this for so long that I don’t even think about it. It’s not deprivation or neurotic; it’s just habitual.

I have some rules for eating. All of them are based on common sense. All were developed by learning that I don’t feel good if I ever break them. I’ve never written them down until now; they’ve just been in my head. Here are my 13 rules:

1. Don’t eat after 7 p.m. except on a very rare occasion.

2. Always drink a pint of water as soon as I wake up.

3. Never eat sugar on an empty stomach–always with lots of raw food and some good plant protein (like almonds, greens, or beans).

4. If I eat any concentrated sugar (besides fruit), it’s only once in a day.

5. Never eat processed meat.

6. After working out, drink only water for a while.

7. Every meal or snack is 60% or more raw plant food (often 80-100%).

8. Don’t drink soda.

9. Don’t buy anything from fast-food restaurants.

10. Don’t eat anything with MSG in it.

11. Don’t add salt to food.

12. If a meal is below 80% raw plant food, take digestive enzymes.

13. If I eat too heavily for a weekend or more, I take a few days to detox. I might eat all raw food, two quarts of green smoothie instead of one, wheat grass juice, extra water–or even a couple of days of nothing but Meal Replacement.

23 thoughts on ““After I eat chocolate cake, I want to die”

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  1. I have a very strict diet. For me it is easy to say no to the chocolate.

    Not bragging, but I have excellent health. All my numbers, Total cholesterol, blood pressure, A1c, HSCRP are good.

    I wake up fit and ready to take on the day. Whether healthy or sick, each one is usually earned. But as we’ve all read lately, obesity is predicted to reach over 50% in the coming years if trends continue.

    With what is typical fare in US diet, I don’t see how that number is not much higher. Nutrition knowledge is woefully lacking along with the courage/discipline to pursue a healthy diet.

    My bro in law is a doctor who’s had hemorrhoids since 20. He told his son (because he has some problems) that they are caused by sitting on the toilet too long.

  2. I like all of your rules and abide by most of them myself. I’d also add:

    – Only eat one plate of dinner. No seconds.

    – Never snack out of a bag or box. Always decide on a serving size and put the rest away.

  3. Thanks for your 13 Rules, Robyn. Your beautiful figure are the results of those rules in action. Speaking of action, I think that comment about Tony Robins pushing the plate away is significant. Physical actions can be very powerful to re-train our minds that are so quick to regress to negative self-talk. Also, regarding the affirmations, I have found that saying affirmations OUT LOUD gets a completely different–and much better–result. It’s like night and day, actually. I recommend people try it!

    For those of us getting our kids back to school, try this one: “I am such a loving mom! I ENJOY making healthy food and snacks for my kids to enjoy”

  4. Any suggestions about what to do with a kid that says “Dad, I know we’re vegetarian, but I just don’t like vegetables?” My other kids think broccoli is a reward, eat raw tomatoes like apples, and ask for spinach salad. I blame the oldest’s temperament on baby food. He was the only one that went through his early developmental years eating nothing that wasn’t puréed. We even gave him baby formula (ack!). Started the transition to whole food when he was two, but I think the damage was done.

  5. There’s this great book called “The End of Overeating” that helped me with a lot of re-thinking how I eat. He addresses this directly–why people come back again and again for the bad stuff. There are entire industries built around getting us to do think that way, so it takes a concerted effort & some understanding of the mechanisms to get away from it.

  6. Thank you for your list of rules that really helps me with a lot of questions that I had. I love number 3 I always tell my husband that if he must give our son a treat not on an empty stomach he used to laugh at that suggestion but I think he gets it now. I think I am going to write my own!

    thank you so much for this post!

  7. Put the cake down and back away!

    I just had one of those moments…where I contemplated making cookies to drown my sorrows…I read this blog post and made a purple smoothie (I’m out of greens)…and all I had was purple cabbage and blueberries (and frozen bananas). Its good, good for me, and I’ll have a natural energy boost in about 15 minutes or so…and it lifted my mood!

    Always go the green route before you go the sugar route!

  8. After eating the 12 Steps way for the past 6 months I threw caution to the wind while with my family who was visiting for a weekend. I felt so sick from falling back to the SAD diet! I took a 3×5 note card and wrote on it WHAT foods I want to eat and WHY both the good reasons and the bad. I made one for my pantry and one for my fridge. Every time I am tempted to make a SAD diet choice I remember how awful I felt. It has been a great motivator for me. I also enjoy the community support on your blog and FB page. Thanks for all your work!

  9. Robyn,

    Any ideas how to convince teenage boys that meat isn’t the only source of protein and sustanance for their growing bodies? Also what about meats like sliced turkey and ham that say they are all natural with no nitrates or nitrites added, are they ok or just as bad?

  10. Robyn,

    I have been following your 12 Steps for a few months now, and am really enjoying how great I am feeling. Do you have any wisdom on belly fat? I had to babies in 15 months and am having a hard time getting a flat tummy? Some say it is my mommy badge, but I would rather that my mommy badge be my happy, healthy, very active little ones.

  11. I go in deprivation mode when I’m not allowed to eat foods. I am pregnant and have gained way more weight than I should. I eat GSG standard (though I do eat organically, farmed raised meats) and exercise religiously. My midwife has asked me to cut my carbs and to not eat my treats (raw fudge and your no cook cookie balls). I feel so deprived! I don’t want processed junk, I just want some raw fudge. So, I am feeling quite deprived and then I find myself overeating my dinners so I can feel somewhat more satisfied.

    So, I have no positive answer at the moment. Well, I guess my only positive answer is… I do no eat gluten, because I remember oh too well how badly I feel after I eat it, so that is a constant reminder in my head.

    I struggle with my son because he has stopped drinking green smoothies (he is 5). I have tried to MAKE him, but it doesn’t work. I do not make him finish his plate.

  12. Meghan, If you are exercising regularly AND eating balanced whole foods, I find it hard to not let a pregnant mama eat some treats. And if you eat some, don’t feel bad about it–that makes it much worse than just eating it. And perhaps you have a need for the carbs… or the cocoa (energy? Cocoa does have caffeine… but other great stuff, too) I’m no expert, but be good to yourself. Aside from a blood sugar issue (I imagine you have had that all checked out), it would seem fine as long as you are eating well balanced otherwise. That’s my 2 cents. Try to not be too hard on yourself. Enjoy your special time being pregnant 🙂

  13. THANK YOU, Stacy! I really try to listen to my body in what it wants/needs, but I get stressed out with the scale. I do need to relax- I exercise and eat balanced whole foods.

  14. Meghan,

    I wouldn’t worry too much either. Extra weight gain can actually mean extra big baby! I’ve had several friends who ate strictly green smoothie based raw food diets while pregnant and all of them ended up with babies that weighed nearly 10lbs. (all of them girls)! Their babies are not fat at all, but they arrived very tall/long with substantial bone growth. That being said, natural vaginal birth wasn’t possible for them. That’s the only thing I would be worried about…

  15. I find the “Don’t eat after 7pm” rule kind of impractical and stupid. One, I work nights, so that is just not gonna work for me. Two, what if you don’t get home from work until 7pm? Are you going to go to bed hungry? I don’t think so.

    Third, I find if I eat too early (about 7:30pm for me on my nights off is ideal for me), I wake up in the middle of the night starving, and that is really not what I want happening!

    All of the natural heath literature I’ve been reading recommends not eating just 2 hours before sleep, and if a snack is needed, to keep it within 150 calories–a handful of nuts or some yoghurt with a small piece of fruit.

    1. Roxanne, I don’t mean to be stupid. Obviously if you work late, that doesn’t have to be YOUR rule. It’s mine. I believe the body does best with periodic rests from digestion (including a fast once a month or as you see fit), including a daily one, that is 12 hours long. There is some significant evidence if you study the hormone leptin, that we shouldn’t be eating 6 times a day (like modern food cults teach), but more like what 99% of the world has done, for millenia: eat 3x a day.

  16. Hi. I didn’t know where to ask this question. I’m twenty, and an extremely poor college student in Provo. I want to do the green smoothie thing so badly, but I can’t see myself buying a blender that costs fifty dollars, let alone five hundred. I am totally converted to this way of health, but I only have about a hundred bucks and a cubic foot of fridge space. I can’t just out and buy a juicer or a blender or … a gajillion greens. I feel like I have to eat the way I do because I REALLY can’t afford anything else– and I still eat pretty healthy considering my budget. Brown rice. Organic pasta. Spinach. Canned black beans. Frozen corn. and that’s about it.

    How can I do this without any tools or money?

  17. Julie,

    I wonder if you could find a mom around here who would let you use her blender and ingredients in return for making the green smoothies for the family? I know Robyn says it takes only 10 minutes a day, but I guess I am a kitchen klutz, because it often takes me significantly longer, and I make a massive mess. If I was close by you, I would be willing to have you come over and make the smoothies, put them in the fridge, and take one for yourself. I am in North Orem now, so I am probably not close to you, but maybe you could find a family nearby?

    How about this? Do you think that enough people in your apartment complex or ward would be interested in the GSG way of life that they would all go in on a blender, and share fridge space, and maybe get a Costco membership together (cheaper spinach)? You could take turns with the blender and at least be able to make GS every other day or 3 days. That’s better than 0, right?

  18. Katie

    These are both really good ideas, but both would be pretty difficult to execute, just because of where I live and what my schedule is like. I am thinking about maybe donating plasma for a couple months in order to raise the money for my own blender. Hey, then I will definitely have a pretty firm attachment to it. 🙂

    Thanks so much for replying!

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