Are you fixing the plumbing in your cottage? or building a mansion? part 1 of 2

My high-school junior son’s photo is on the front page of Sports, rubbing the snow of the baseball before he pitches it on Tuesday. Brrr! And then the next day, I’m skiing in a t-shirt at Sundance. Gotta love Spring in Utah!

I was in warmer St. George last week with a lot of downtime, watching my younger son play baseball.

(Tips for traveling there? Café Rio, this is what I always order. Vegetarian salad, all beans/no rice, no fried tortillas chip-strips, whole-wheat tortilla, extra romaine. And Dixie Nutrition’s frozen yogurt with no sugar, one flavor has just stevia, $0.99 for a small.)

Some GSG readers were in the baseball stands in St. George. They talked to me through my son’s last two games–except the times I’d leap out of the stands as my son (shameless bragging alert):

–bottom of the last inning with two outs, score tied, got trapped in a pickle between 3rd and home but beat it (that’s where the catcher and 3rd baseman have the runner in between them trying to get back to either base), and then:

–slid face-first into home plate, beating the tag with a “SAFE!” call from the ump only after the dust cleared, with the other team’s coaches and parents screaming, “OUT!” — to score the winning run, 11-10.

One of the GSG readers is in her 70’s and pointed sadly at her adult son, who had just shown up, Coke in hand. She said, wistfully, “I wish I had an influence on that. I just don’t.” She’s already lost one of her 9 children to colon cancer.

Young moms, you have all the power in the world. Ghandi said, “Be the change you want to see in the world.” Your children are all yours, right now. They won’t be forever. Eventually the larger culture starts to own them. So walk the talk now–they will respect you for it always, even if they have occasional tantrums.

So with more free time than usual, I had some long convos with friends I’ve been neglecting and needed to catch up with. My friend Jennie, as I was driving home for 4 hours, reminded me in a long philosophical chat, about this quote I’d forgotten about, from C.S. Lewis in his book Mere Christianity:

“Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of–throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.”

Jennie and I had been talking about two subjects, switching back and forth. One was religion, and the other was nutrition. Comparing C.S. Lewis’ comment to religion, she said this to me:

“Robyn, you take for granted all your knowledge about nutrition. You sent me to Dr. Rodier, and I did this cleanse, and I had no idea what to eat, for so long. I still don’t. I obsessively read labels. You might roll your eyes, but that’s because two months ago I was that girl you blogged about once who asked if fresh fruit is as good for you as canned fruit. The one who thinks there has to be Jell-O at every meal, because that’s what my mom did.

“I’m still celebrating that I ate whole-corn tortilla chips with my lunch, because it’s better than the Doritos I ate before. And that won’t make any sense to you. But you have to know where I’ve come from to celebrate where I am.”

I’ve been thinking of Jennie’s words for days. She’s so right. I have become aware over and over, recently, that many of us start from a very low point, knowledge-wise, regarding nutrition.

More tomorrow….

7 thoughts on “Are you fixing the plumbing in your cottage? or building a mansion? part 1 of 2

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  1. Robyn, Young Mom’s need HELP! I was just at a church meeting last night where 2 other mom’s were discussing their rigorous excercise and diet routines including protein shakes and special healthy meal plans… so my question to them was, “So your kids eat that at dinner with you too?” And the one replied, “Oh no, they won’t eat it, I just have to give them chicken nuggets or something else… they won’t eat that healthy.” I just sat there appalled! The whole reason I found you was b/c I was searching for answers to help my 2 year old who was seriously resisting vegetables. I never gave up though, and now she eats her green smoothie every morning, cut up raw veggies at lunch, and steamed veggies at dinner with no complaint. Sad that so many parents give up so easy. Thanks for all you do! You have affected so many lives! Keep up the good work!

  2. I am so happy with the 12 steps program, and am enjoying cooking so many of the recipes, I just can’t get enough. I was hoping in the future to see a healthy slow cooker recipe set. I know somedays I just want to come home and have a hot meal waiting, salad first of course =) Any plans on that for the future? If I come up with any good ones, I will be sure to send them in to you! Thanks for all you do again!

  3. Hi Robyn,

    I was where your friend was too, not knowing what to do and happy about the little changes I made. Well I found out after years of little changes that that was not enough. I am overweight, young, and looking for all the help I can get! I found you, and your program has helped me tremendously (more than any other program)!!! Because of your knowledge and tips, my husband (who refused to drink green smoothies before) and my 2 year old son, now drinks green smoothies and love it! I am in the first step of your 12 steps and so far have lost 9 very stubborn pounds after 3 weeks!

    Thanks for your knowledge and perserverance!!!!

  4. I gotta say, my kids eat a healthy whole food breakfast, I pack my kindergartener a lunch of ONLY whole, unprocessed foods, but by the time dinner rolls around, I am so exhausted that I give in to not as healthy foods because I know my soup and baked potatoe with sprouts isn’t going to cut it for them (3&6 yrs.) let alone my husband! That dinnertime is a major “sneak-up and crush you” time. I find that if I’m not thoroughly prepped and organized way ahead of time (which is not easy for me to do!), I just don’t have it in me to keep it As healthy as I wish. I OFTEN think of Robyn, and other friends, and wonder where I am lacking in my prep or planning, or whatever to pull off those healthy alive dinners!

    1. Stacy, having salads be QUICK to prep is the key, and get in the habit of always always having a big salad for dinner. And making really simple plant-based main dishes. I make enough for two nights, so I’m really only cooking on Mon, Wed, Fri, Sun or whatever. (We don’t eat the same thing 2 nights in a row–we might have Monday’s leftovers on Thurs.) Often we have a salad that’s big enough for 2 nights, too! Right now I have a bunch of baked potatoes in foil so I can use them a few nights in the next two weeks. We put all kinds of vegs on them, plus vegetarian chili. A handful of go-to plant-based main dishes is really helpful so you replace the bad repertoire of meals with a good repertoire.

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